I'm just a "work at home Mum."
As in, JUST barely has time to complete her work as a stay at home Mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my job, being a Mother to two beautiful Children, but its hard!, and you know what makes it harder?, society.
Is it human nature for others to be so judgmental of other Mothers trying to "make it" in this world of high expectation?, or is it their own insecurities coming to the surface?, is it their own guilt expressed in judgement?, do they really just need a cuddle and a badge?, i mean, right now i am sitting on the floor of the lounge room in front of the heater with a two year old draped across my knee breastfeeding while my seven year old shoots straw and pencil darts at the back of my head (with free saliva attached) while i balance the laptop in a unusual way to be able to one finger type this blog, dream job come true right?.
I just love going to appointments for my Children and having the specialist ask what i do for crust?, the words they scribble on the file "stay at home Mother" are kind of in a way lessening the position i feel i hold, what i REALLY think that they should write in that void space on the medical forms is "Super Mum", now there is a fitting title!, after all, what is wrong with writing my Business name Ballarat Placentas?.
Now if you are a Mother that works away from the home and drops your children off to care, don't think that i'm forgetting about you *insert salute here*, and, if you are a Mother that doesn't work, please don't get your knickers in a twist thinking that i'm implying that you don't in fact work full time at being a Mother, my point i'm trying to make is WHY?, do some people assume that a Mother working from home is a hobby?, or a phase?.
I work very hard at my business the best that i can, and rest assured no one actually knows the real effort that i put into it to earn money to basically blow on the children the very next day on dentist appointments, chemist supplies, and clothing. Not even my Husband.
My husband also assumes that i have all the time in the world I am sure, its in his questioning when he comes home, "what have you done all day?", I couldn't possibly even begin to tell him everything that has happened in my day, so i skim over it and just give the important stuff, you know, the stuff they want to know, like "well darling i got all of your clothes washed and dried and perfectly folded and put away for you...even added a few drops of lavender to make sure that you remain calm in your very busy child free on the road business that you attend to all day, and as i was skipping down the perfectly vacuumed hallway i stopped to give your hanging photo of you a polish and a kiss"...that kinda thing ....
I don't tell him that the kids painted the toilet entirely green with face paint, force fed the dog SAO biscuits, dragged mud right thru the house, threw up on my favorite blanket, refused to sleep, threw a tantrum at the supermarket, drew on the inside white interior of the new car, all while demanding "ups" and breastfeeds when ever i sat down to do do some invoicing or reply to emails and STILL managed to cook an amazing KFC meal!;)
He has a very successful Locksmith business which he works very hard at, and which i also work very hard at for him, doing his paperwork and making sure the bills are paid.
Now i'm not claiming that i have it hard, i'm claiming that i have it BUSY, and as if being a Mother wasn't a full time job already, i decided to throw a business in the mix, what the hell was i thinking?.
Next time you come across another Mummy business, get interested, find out what it is that she does, try and support her, tell your fiends, tell her that she is doing an amazing job and respect that she IS running a REAL business, with real demands, and real children at her knees.
This world of Mummy businesses has boomed, everyone is trying their hand at making a little extra money, social media makes it easy to try and if you fail, then you just shut down the online store and walk away, it really is that simple.
But, Mummy businesses also bring competition, there is always another Mother out there that is out to get you, one that wants to bring you down, put you out of business to make her own succeed, this is the world that we live in, sadly, we have lost our village, Mothers all over the world, despite sharing sleepless nights, sick children, housework, personal family demands, and relationship strains, find it OK to tear other Mothers down.
It's not O.K.
There is room for all of us, we must come together and support one another, a little bit of praise goes along way, a little hug and encouragement and a kind word is invaluable.
I love my business, its something that i fell into and am very passionate about, and of course i have had my fair share of bullies try and bring me down, and i'm sure they felt very superior in trying to do so, and sure it hurt and caused a great deal of stress to me, and my family, but I'm still here.
So lift one another up, don't tear other mothers down, instead, while your breastfeeding at 3 am give them a like on Facebook, shop in their stores, introduce yourself and tell them they are doing a wonderful job. Because that's what grown ups do!
You Mumma are AMAZING!